Vulnerability

Its a fine line.  We all have walked it, some more often than others.  We know there is a point where we need to let go of our fears, let down the walls and let someone in, really in.  But we're scared as hell.

We've been burned and we have been blindsided but yet we are strong, sassy and bold?  Are we trying too hard to keep up our fun, carefree attitude rather than just be completely open and honest about just what we are feeling?

Its such a toss up.  It should be so simple.  If you start to really like someone, and you want to move to that special place with them, you should tell them.  But many of us have witnessed the freak out moments when the feelings start to ooze out.  The man runs for cover, and runs fast.  Why?  When they are in la-la land, happy as a clam, smiling at you, telling you how beautiful you are, kissing all over, and staring into your eyes like a mesmerized child....you wonder how with a few inklings of real emotions, they recoil in terror?  I am hoping any one of my male readers will respond, post some wisdom and make us all say "a ha!"  The reality is that there may not be some sage response to any of this.  It may be as simple as timing or that you are the "right at this moment girl" and not the "long term girl".  Sadly enough, he may not be that into you after all and so, life goes on as it always does.  But as we think more about vulnerability, we see successful relationships launch into space with sparks, butterflies and joy.  It can happen and it does indeed require 2 people to open up, let down the guards and be vulnerable. Naked, scared, vulnerable...its where we have to be to take a relationship of any kind to the next level.