Location is Everything my dear

Sometimes you just have to apply the same level of strategy that you conjure up in the business world to the single life.  Hoping that I have not confused you yet, allow me to elaborate and put a very different kind of thinking cap on, dear.

Its not hard to imagine....you are single, and while life is fancy free you actually do want to meet an eligible bachelor at some point that completely knocks the wind out of you with his presence and charm.

Single girls commonly plan trips involving shopping, spas and sunbathing.  Well ladies, um......this is not where the single men are congregating.  Lets be honest, if you want to meet great guys you will need to carve out some of your precious free time and get strategic.

Suggestions for those ladies lacking the strategic element:
1.  Mountain towns:  I maintain this as numero uno on my list because the ratio is consistently in your favor no matter what town you choose anywhere on the globe.  The men are down to earth, a little wild and rough and its so damn easy to start conversation, toast a beer and have some real fun outdoors.  If you are not so outdoorsy it can still be a good spot to post up at the apres ski spot with a book enjoying the warm rays of sunshine or cozy up with that magazine in the lodge by the fireplace.  Likewise, hiking or walking about town looking cute is also pretty darn conducive even if you cannot tear up the slopes or rock hop on your mountain bike.  Mountain towns = more boys.  Trust me, you will be successful.
2. Sports/Divey Bars:  While I am just as guilty as any girl by wanting to go to the chic spot and sit enjoying caprese salad and ahi tartar with my girlfriends while sipping a ginger-tini, there will be more men at the sportsy/divey bar watching a game or just kicking back enjoying a belgian ale.  Again, these men are approachable and appreciative of pretty little you being in their dark man cave brightening things up.
3.  Burger Joints:  You may be starting to catch on by now....yes, you simply think of the place you really want to go and then go to the opposite kind of place.  While anyone may appreciate a good burger, whether its good ole beef, snazzed up turkey burger or a veggie patty with veganaise, most of the time a woman will choose the asian fusion spot, or the healthy indian spot or the hip patio with california cuisine.  Sure, men go to all those places but you will never strike out if you roll into the burger joint garnished with a smile and ready to meet boys.

I cannot give away all of my secrets ladies or I will be fightin off girls while I try to nudge my way to the old bar in my favorite mountain town next to the unassuming hottie!

Mr Big Stuff

It had been a long time coming that Alesha had a thing for Billy.  Life had taken them down different paths, but every time she encountered him over the years, it sparked something within her.  He was the guy that had her heart, and maybe didn't even know it?

With Billy newly single, Alesha had a chance to spend some much desired time with him.  Having a good time together was a given.  Her mouth ached from smiling so much that night.  Later that night, after having enough drinks to hamper his driving abilities, they retired back to her place.  She thought he was an amazing guy, but had never had a chance at real romance with him until this point.  Excitement filled the room that evening. She sat starry eyed in the bedroom and GASP, she almost fell over onto the ground when she witnessed Mr Big Stuff.  Never in her life had she seen something so large.  She wondered if this whole thing was going to work?  Alesha questioned herself about the plausibility of this thing actually fitting as she stared in disbelief. (her mouth may have actually been open at this point with awe)  Well, somehow it did.  It fit.  It worked.  It worked well.

For now, Alesha and Billy are keeping things cool.  Each of them are doing their thing in life, but Alesha is hoping once he settles into his new state of being that he will realize the magic that they have and come running to snatch her up.  She still is as mystified by the big stuff as she was the first time she saw it, and probably always will be.  See you this winter Mr. Big Stuff....

the allure of the ballerina

Everyone loves a ballerina.  They are blessed with the dichotomy of innocence and allure, all while being graceful and lean.  There is always a magic about Paris.  The combination of ballerinas and Paris virtually created a combustion within the walls of VIP Room.  Crystal and Tabby were dolled up in their heels, dresses and glasses of champagne as they looked up to the center stage in one of the most gorgeous clubs in the city.  They saw not a typical go go dancer gyrating to the beats, but alas, a blush tutu clad duo of dancers.  Amazingly, both the women and men inside the walls of this club were mesmerized by the sight.  Tabby pushed her way to the zone below the stage so she could get a closer look at this beautiful sight.  Why is it that Paris has the chicest go go dancers in the world?  And why has no one on this planet thought of a ballerina burlesque club?  Perhaps a nutcracker suite for male purveyors would be a ravishing success: complete with dancers en pointe, ribbons dangling from the ceiling, topless tutu dancers and everything pink?  Perhaps ballerinas have us spinning but we think we're onto something!

Sex starts in the Shoes

 One thing a man must know is that sexiness starts when a woman dresses.  Depending on the evening prognosis and who she may be seeing, every piece of clothing and most importantly the shoes will reflect how she is feeling.  If you want to understand a woman's state of the union, really look at what she has pieced together.  Does her black bra strap peek out from under her tank top.  Hint: she is feeling sexy and wanted it perhaps to peek out.  Does she have an armful of bangles which makes a soft, clang when they touch and slide up her arm?  Does she have long, dangly earrings that swirl and dangle within her hair?  And most importantly, is she wearing sky high heels?  Are they platform?  Are they snakeskin?  Do they reveal well manicured toes?  Are they sexy tall boots that instantly have you imagining all kinds of things?  Before you check out her butt as she walks away, shake yourself up and take a closer look.  Look at the cues, get a sense for who she is and maybe, just maybe.....

tailor your approach, your voice, your choice of words, your entire vibe to the woman she is that night.

Oh Hair Yeah

 What is SEXY?  A big head of hair is sexy for sure.  Here are some visuals and you can judge for yourselves.  But Talisa knows that she gets weak in the knees when she sees a man with sexy tresses.  Ah, the allure of hair......

The key to sexy hair is first and foremost nutrition.  If you eat right, your hair should grow, and supplementing with vitamins is also helpful. You just have to do what is necessary to achieve the luxurious mane we all dream about.  See House of Glam Beauty's Hair Vitamin Secrets

 In the heat of the moment, when the lights are dimmed, and you grab a full head of hair, its absolutely sensuous.  No matter what color or what age you are, you can channel your inner hair goddess.  Talisa likes to suds up with Kerastase line of products which create a tremendous shine.  Having your hair twirled and fondled is magnificent.  It is somewhat like the peacock with their lovely feathers.....flash your goods.

Growler

What happens when you combine a grown man with a few cans of beer = the growler!  Yes, this can really happen.  When you hear it, you will know.  It is a combination of talking mixed with growling or a heavy breath and a roll of the r perhaps?  Nevertheless, it is indeed a strange phenomenon.  Why does this occur spontaneously?  I suppose that question lines up with why is the sky blue and why did Tiger Woods think he could screw a bunch of trashy chicks and never be found out or why do twinkies never spoil?

dating a daddy

While the concept of dating a man with children is daunting, even suicide to some.....what the hell is a decent man with kids who is alone supposed to do?  Is he supposed to find a woman with kids and do the brady bunch merger?  What if he feels young, loves his kids and wants to find a beautiful, smart, cool lady?  What then?  Brianna never gave the daddies a chance.  She figured life and dating was complicated enough.  She had a hard enough time getting a relationship to be successful these days and that was simply just worrying about one person!  She certainly did not think she could also navigate the treacherous hurdles of "their mother", child support complaints, development of "mom#2", the question of whether the kids would accept her, and the potential for a world of unforeseen challenges. Yet, nothing is perfect in life.  With every situation comes its serving of hurdles and struggles.  Stepping into a web of complexities may be worth it to gain a lifetime of love and new bright lights shining in your life.  Having an open mind is key and maintaining hope about good things in the world is vital.  Maybe, just maybe there was a greater level of patience, understanding and integrity embedded within the daddy?  Maybe it deserves a more in depth investigation?

the plight of the alpha female

Is it our downfall to be an alpha female after all?


As a little girl, we all had big dreams but as we reflect looking at our lives over the years....should we have simply been good at cooking, cleaning and finding a rich man?  


The alpha female possesses traits that get her ahead in life:  dominance, confidence, and a take-charge attitude. The alpha female is ambitious, strong and achieves her goals.  All of this sounds good, or even fantastic on paper.  But the bottom line is that these alphas are charismatic and charming women that get what they want in life.  But in the end, does all of this become intimidating for men?  Is it too much to have someone you date who is just as plugged in, successful and worldly?  


I have wondered, my friends have wondered and some men will actually admit that this is somewhat true.  This leaves us with what?  There is a small percentage of men who are successful, confident, comfortable enough and eager to take on the alpha and then there is the rest.  Sighhhhh.  One can only hope that there will be an increased appreciation for the alpha and all that she brings to the table.  After all, we can bring the same level of ambition to all tasks.....

The moment when something changes

There is a moment, which is virtually impossible to accurately describe, where you see someone differently and you start to have real feelings for them.  It is nearly like the concept of the light suddenly coming on or the fog finally disappearing from the mirror in the bathroom.  

And when it happens: its magical.  There is a warm, uncertain feeling in your stomach peppered by bursts of excitement that you carefully push back as your eyes open wider and realize the person before you is someone you could love.  It doesn't happen every day and sometimes it can be years and years until you experience this momentous awareness. Its the "I want to scream from the rooftops" kind of feeling yet what is paired with this giddy enthusiasm is fear.  It is the most absurd anomaly because with opening your heart comes fear of it being crushed.  We all know, we only gain from taking the risks and thus we persist and take chances with our hearts.  Don't you wish there were guarantees?

The good old boys club

At a time when equality should not be something we have to even discuss, we are faced with the same old crap just a more modern version of it.  It is interesting how we face it dead on in our worlds and almost forget to note how very imbalanced the situation is. So why is it that the boys get to flirt, stray, discuss their miserable marriages or lame girlfriends, go to strip clubs, pat girls booties and grab girls by their waists when it would be totally looked down upon if females were to do the same things?

Davilla was a power female, who did it all.  She had the family, the business, the success, the energy to give back and could hold her own in any discussion with a top executive.  Yet even she, being a serious business woman got her ass smacked, got told she shouldn't wear those naughty high heels with her skinny jeans, and got an eye brown raise when she was out partying with the boys.  Are we in the stone age?  The days when Fred Flintstone would head to the water buffalo meetings to get away from Wilma, while she sat home gossiping with Betty are long gone.  But we still have some of these same frustrations and the same, revived crap that really never died.
The reality is that Davilla and others like her should get some! They should flirt, go out with the boys, and do whatever the hell they want just like the boys do.  Why not?

Sexy Carmella in the Shirt

When it comes to Carmella, don't ask and don't tell.
a light touch and a saucy smile has admirers under her spell.

One night she dressed in a colorful flirty top, revealing her tan and lovely legs.  She sipped her bubbly, smiled at the boys, and chatted famously with everyone at the table.  Later, at the big party, Carmella danced and grooved to the sounds of the DJ.  She was immersed in the moment, her dark tresses swaying when suddenly a man could not handle himself.  Her short little top or perhaps dress....was yanked up by an overly curious man.  She was so overcome with the music, the ambience and the moment that she did not even realize it.  Her sexy Carmella bum exposed to all!  Luckily she had Amelia near by who yanked that little top back down promptly.  We all need an Angel Amelia by our side when anxious little men get overly excitable.

Poof, Carmella, unfazed was off to the next adventure.  Here she comes little prepster.  Later we find out he, too was engulfed and intrigued by Carmella and her colorful little dress.

Velcro Man

Having an admirer is sweet.  It can be flattering, and fun.  But once they persist at too vigorous a pace, they move into Velcro man territory.  That is a precarious position for any man.  Grab yourselves and stop the semi-stalking.  While you think its just nice to be around the lady you desire, it can drive the woman all the way to Antarctica to get get away from you! 

To all the lonely men

As of late, Talia has encountered more and more lonely men.  They are sweet, nice, smart, dedicated to their families, hard working but the alarming thing is that they are married.  They are not cheaters nor is this a blog posting supporting the act of cheating with married individuals.  In fact, the karma with that is not something we wish upon any rockin chicks near or far. But the saddening fact is that there are many marriages that continue to exist however leaving both parties (likely) feeling lonely.  In speaking on behalf of all people, we want to understand how to avoid this scenario?  We know plenty of wonderful, happy and successful unions where you look longingly at the adorable couple who appreciates and respects one another.  There are all kinds of long term relationships.  But as we ponder ourselves in 10, 20, 30 years from now, you must try to imagine the future and never, never, never stop pouring your heart, energy, soul and dedication to making something you are in exciting, wonderful and keeping each other from getting lonely.

BJ torture game

Yes, gasp if you must......but there is a game Lucy discovered that is sure to please.  The BJ torture game is not intended to truly torture in the brutal sense but think of it more like an elongation of a wonderful feeling?  Lucy was playing with her beast of a man and realized that guys stop and start all the time simply to prolong things, and also (rightfully so) to avoid being selfish and going too soon.  Alas, we appreciate and praise the thoughtful man who thinks not of his own pleasure but the pleasure of both parties.  So, when its time for the woman to be in charge of the pace, why hurry through it?  Yes if you are not excited by the receiving party, we can relate to getting the job done quickly. But why not jump in that driver seat and go go go and then lull lull lull, taunt, tease, stop, start, and just enjoy the control and the fun.  Call it what you must, but we coined it BJ TORTURE GAME.  Lucy already has him signing up for more!

the Turn over of a flock

Just like that, with the snap of the fingers or a week away on a trip, everything can change. Its part of the turn over in life, something like natural selection in biology?  Viviana believes that what is meant to be with stick and the rest will bounce or fizzle or just be forgotten.   One week Viviana has a flock of 6, smiling ear to ear, she talks with her friends about her fun dates and messages.  She enjoyed all of them, but perhaps as the flock turns over, the last man standing is the one that matters? She describes her six-pack-clad wealthy cutie and their quiet evenings making healthy dinners overlooking the water, and her elegantly planned dates with Silver Fox, the smart doctor she thought she didn't like, or her outdoorsy creative date guy who brought the dog a bone, web design guy with his dimples, oh and how could she forget the adorably gorgeous young man from Europe, or the clever, romantic irishman from the hills, or her south african sweetie she just met.  The reality is that Viviana saw no shortage of new friends and flock members, and even if they do not stick, they serve a purpose and they have a role.  Let them all be, and let them all remind us that someday someone will matter and someone will stick.  That day will be the end of the flocks!  until then.....

its a small world after all

A stray dog is a stray dog and a random guy you bring home from a bar one night is strikingly a similar situation.

Janae filled her life with experiences and acted spontaneously to capture each moment and each opportunity.  She was here, she was there and lately had met a handful of random strangers.

Two evenings in the same month, she found herself a decent cutie, ending in some solid 2 am make-out sessions.  The funny thing is not the random 1:00 am acquisition, and then the solidification of that acquisition by continuing the party once the bar had closed its doors.  The humorous aspect is that each of these totally unique and random males were associated with another female in our friendship extended circle of rockin chicks.  So, does Janae have the same taste as this other female simply or is this the reality when you have lived in a place too long and the open options are becoming scarce?

Next time you take home a stray dog or go home with a stray, remember the world indeed can be quite small.  Look before you leap or leap and share the goods....

Red & The Jersey Shore

Little Red Riding Hood goes to Grandmothers house, but Red goes to the Shore!

Whether it was the clingy Irishmen who wanted a visa and a piece of Red, or perhaps it was the random-left- behind-cutie in the kitchen that later became a make-out partner, there was always an adventure for the girls in the Jersey Shore.  Before you immediately think Red was surrounded by snookie and company, these girls were in a much classier spot on the shore.  Its where the city folk from Philly head when they want to live the beach life.  Although its strange for Cali girls to venture all the way to the Jersey Shore, its much more about the vibe, the gentlemen and the attitude.  It just works.  Meanwhile Ms B was running around in her shortest shorts and sending smiles in all directions to random strangers, Red found a cutie that was worth the pursuit.  Finally they got privacy to have their moment which was filled with champagne, making out and good old summer beach memories.  3 lips later, Ms Red found 1 gem, 1 stalker and 1 stay in touch with perhaps save for later kinda boy.

Alas, timing is everything in life and although the gent was a gem, he may be ready for ripeness next summer.....as he needs to get his things in order to be a contender for Red.

Summer comes and summer goes, with a jaunt to the Shore, there is sure to be fun, make outs and flirts!