Sex on the mind

It could be the moon, your mood, or some unknown factor but sometimes you just have sex on the mind.  One friend that shall remain nameless said it best, "its as if you want to stay in bed, close the world out completely and just be like an animal for a whole day."  Perhaps nurturing our animal instincts once in a while is a good thing?  Tune out from the world, turn off the phones, ignore the laptop, doorbell, appointments and all the unneeded distractions of the modern world!  There are verified health benefits to indulging!

the hook up with the FRIEND

She flirted with him here and there.  Some people accused her of having the "hots" for him, and she would quickly brush it off.  They were only friends, she would remind them and laugh.  There was a morsel of truth there but what she did not admit was that there was a lot of attraction that went along with it.

One night, they both found themselves eased with alcohol and having a great time.  As the night wore on, their inhibitions slid away.  They flirted shamelessly but she really believed it would end like it always had, with nothing further happening.  Not this time.  She wanted him, as much as she never could admit it.  And he obviously felt the same. As the music cranked, he slid his hands from her waist down to her hips.  She moved like a real woman, and her short dress flipped and twirled around her round bottom.  He could not resist.  They both became  mesmerized by the trance and the game they were playing with one another, until they could resist no more.  The memory is seen through a foggy piece of glass, as they somehow made it back to the hotel room where the years of flirtation finally was able to come to fruition.  Their lips met, their hands gripped each other, clothes were practically torn off, and they scoured each other's bodies.  Afterwards, they were so exhausted that they lay paralyzed on top of the bed amongst the ravaged bedding and articles of clothing.

She may admit it to some, but she'd rather keep it quiet that these two actually hooked up finally after a few years of flirting, accusations and certainly friendship.  Though some may judge or say what they must, who really cares?  A woman wants a man, a man wants a woman and they enjoyed the ravenous evening of pleasure together after fighting it for a long while.  Life is about realizing the things we want and going after them, now isn't it?

Will you be ready?

While watching an old Episode of Sex and the City, the episode where Carrie meets Aleksander Petrovsky for the first time.....I find myself contemplating how much those ladies have been through and where they are as of this episode. Much like our own lives, many of us have been through a lot, had many loves, painful endings and watched our friends change and life change. Along the way, we have choices how to exit and how to renew ourselves. I have seen all versions of this in my friends and acquaintances. Some of them grew, some holed up and erected barriers to protect themselves from further pain and denial, some blocked the pain out, some did their best to bounce back and live life and some have resigned themselves to a life on their very own. It all works, who are we to judge anyone? But for those still holding onto hope for a great love and for a person to share their life with, a poignant question arises. If and when that happens, will you be ready? You may be saying, "well, of course I will be!" But being ready does not simply mean that you have waited for this all your life and it's time. It has a deeper level of meaning. When you feel yourself looking into the eyes of the man you could really love and completely fall for, it is damn scary. It can be so scary that we find ourselves consciously or unconsciously performing little acts of self-sabotage, or staying aloof to protect our ultimate vulnerability. Perhaps as much as we want it or think we do, we have to be ready within ourselves. We have to be willing to face the gretestz fear we know, make sacrifices, adapt, give a little, open those doors, realize it is not just about us but the greater "we", take risks, accept being uncomfortable at times, realize there will be unknowns and go with them. The list goes on. The reality is that when you are looking at Mr Right, it will only work out if YOU are ready to accept the wild ride ahead with every scary demon, bump, that unexpected baggage, turbulence and bad meal that may come along with the flight package!