We all watched Sex in the City, and understand how much fun a girl can have with her posse of fabulous friends. The happy hour adventures, the date stories or sagas as they sometimes turn out to be and the humbling moments you share with only your girls. Just like buying new shoes, finding a new corral member can be a thrill. One can imagine how a conquerer felt when he discovered a new chunk of land! First things first, creating the descriptor for the new member is always fun. Samantha curls her mouth with fondness as she thinks of past descriptors, "sockboy", "young buck", "perch", "Jersey", etc. There is a temporary, "savor the moment" kind of mentality that goes hand in hand with corral management. Samantha and her girls know that these boys, and men in some cases will only be around for a while. Its exciting when there is a new crop to explore. Some friends have a few regular members who have enough charisma to stand out in a corral, and enough mystery to stay at arms length. They have staying power, but only as a corral member. They will never graduate to anything further. There seems to be nothing wrong with this for either person. C'est la vie!
Sometimes you encounter a beautiful specimen, and typically if they are that gorgeous from an exterior perspective....they most likely do not amount to as much in the inside. That being said, they can be considered corral beautification. Let them spruce things up for a bit?! There are those that can contribute adventure, romance, drunken moments shared or company when things are rough. Everyone has a place. Rarely, there is a front runner who establishes himself at a different level. Usually there is a wait and see pattern to see what comes of this champion corral member?
Juggling corral members can be challenging at times. Remembering names, professions, pets, injuries, food preferences, and the like can be a great deal of information for one to memorize. Perhaps we should create study tools of sorts for gals looking to optimize their management skills? You say cheat sheet, I say Blackberry memo. Either way, notes can be helpful.
Then once upon a time, you may get lucky and encounter a person who really jolts you. This caliber of person usually is a big fat sign that the corral herding is coming to a screeching halt. The days of texting 3 boys at once and not caring much about any particular corral member are gone. This person is beyond front runner status. This is usually someone that you realize quite rapidly falls into a whole different category in life. They can make a girl kick her corral to the curb in an instant! A girl could go from a 10 boy corral wielding genius to a taken woman in a matter of days and be happy as a girl who won a pair of free Jimmy Choos!
In such cases of the heart, girls need to dismantle the corral as their focus quickly becomes centered on the single, wonderful man. Are their risks? Indeed. You risk it all. You risk your heart being broken into a gazillion pieces. You risk losing all of the clever corral building you have worked so hard for. You may lose your regular happy hour dates. You may be accused of going to the dark side, etc. But if it pans out, it can be well worth the sacrifice.
Corral dismantling requires 2 typical types of actions. One is easy, the blow off. Let things fizzle, die out and remain a mystery. The other requires some form of communication notifying the members that your status has changed and you are now off the corral herding market. The key is not continuing random engagement with corral members just in case.....when you really don't care about them at all, because in the end this could severely backfire in many ways. When its done, its done.
So girls, get out there an find corral members if you are single.....there will be plenty of time to be snuggled up by the fire with your dreamboat. If you have found someone amazing, then kick the corral members to the curb and enjoy having a beautiful person next to you to do whatever you want with!
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