the plight of the alpha female

Is it our downfall to be an alpha female after all?


As a little girl, we all had big dreams but as we reflect looking at our lives over the years....should we have simply been good at cooking, cleaning and finding a rich man?  


The alpha female possesses traits that get her ahead in life:  dominance, confidence, and a take-charge attitude. The alpha female is ambitious, strong and achieves her goals.  All of this sounds good, or even fantastic on paper.  But the bottom line is that these alphas are charismatic and charming women that get what they want in life.  But in the end, does all of this become intimidating for men?  Is it too much to have someone you date who is just as plugged in, successful and worldly?  


I have wondered, my friends have wondered and some men will actually admit that this is somewhat true.  This leaves us with what?  There is a small percentage of men who are successful, confident, comfortable enough and eager to take on the alpha and then there is the rest.  Sighhhhh.  One can only hope that there will be an increased appreciation for the alpha and all that she brings to the table.  After all, we can bring the same level of ambition to all tasks.....

The moment when something changes

There is a moment, which is virtually impossible to accurately describe, where you see someone differently and you start to have real feelings for them.  It is nearly like the concept of the light suddenly coming on or the fog finally disappearing from the mirror in the bathroom.  

And when it happens: its magical.  There is a warm, uncertain feeling in your stomach peppered by bursts of excitement that you carefully push back as your eyes open wider and realize the person before you is someone you could love.  It doesn't happen every day and sometimes it can be years and years until you experience this momentous awareness. Its the "I want to scream from the rooftops" kind of feeling yet what is paired with this giddy enthusiasm is fear.  It is the most absurd anomaly because with opening your heart comes fear of it being crushed.  We all know, we only gain from taking the risks and thus we persist and take chances with our hearts.  Don't you wish there were guarantees?

The good old boys club

At a time when equality should not be something we have to even discuss, we are faced with the same old crap just a more modern version of it.  It is interesting how we face it dead on in our worlds and almost forget to note how very imbalanced the situation is. So why is it that the boys get to flirt, stray, discuss their miserable marriages or lame girlfriends, go to strip clubs, pat girls booties and grab girls by their waists when it would be totally looked down upon if females were to do the same things?

Davilla was a power female, who did it all.  She had the family, the business, the success, the energy to give back and could hold her own in any discussion with a top executive.  Yet even she, being a serious business woman got her ass smacked, got told she shouldn't wear those naughty high heels with her skinny jeans, and got an eye brown raise when she was out partying with the boys.  Are we in the stone age?  The days when Fred Flintstone would head to the water buffalo meetings to get away from Wilma, while she sat home gossiping with Betty are long gone.  But we still have some of these same frustrations and the same, revived crap that really never died.
The reality is that Davilla and others like her should get some! They should flirt, go out with the boys, and do whatever the hell they want just like the boys do.  Why not?

Sexy Carmella in the Shirt

When it comes to Carmella, don't ask and don't tell.
a light touch and a saucy smile has admirers under her spell.

One night she dressed in a colorful flirty top, revealing her tan and lovely legs.  She sipped her bubbly, smiled at the boys, and chatted famously with everyone at the table.  Later, at the big party, Carmella danced and grooved to the sounds of the DJ.  She was immersed in the moment, her dark tresses swaying when suddenly a man could not handle himself.  Her short little top or perhaps dress....was yanked up by an overly curious man.  She was so overcome with the music, the ambience and the moment that she did not even realize it.  Her sexy Carmella bum exposed to all!  Luckily she had Amelia near by who yanked that little top back down promptly.  We all need an Angel Amelia by our side when anxious little men get overly excitable.

Poof, Carmella, unfazed was off to the next adventure.  Here she comes little prepster.  Later we find out he, too was engulfed and intrigued by Carmella and her colorful little dress.

Velcro Man

Having an admirer is sweet.  It can be flattering, and fun.  But once they persist at too vigorous a pace, they move into Velcro man territory.  That is a precarious position for any man.  Grab yourselves and stop the semi-stalking.  While you think its just nice to be around the lady you desire, it can drive the woman all the way to Antarctica to get get away from you! 

To all the lonely men

As of late, Talia has encountered more and more lonely men.  They are sweet, nice, smart, dedicated to their families, hard working but the alarming thing is that they are married.  They are not cheaters nor is this a blog posting supporting the act of cheating with married individuals.  In fact, the karma with that is not something we wish upon any rockin chicks near or far. But the saddening fact is that there are many marriages that continue to exist however leaving both parties (likely) feeling lonely.  In speaking on behalf of all people, we want to understand how to avoid this scenario?  We know plenty of wonderful, happy and successful unions where you look longingly at the adorable couple who appreciates and respects one another.  There are all kinds of long term relationships.  But as we ponder ourselves in 10, 20, 30 years from now, you must try to imagine the future and never, never, never stop pouring your heart, energy, soul and dedication to making something you are in exciting, wonderful and keeping each other from getting lonely.

BJ torture game

Yes, gasp if you must......but there is a game Lucy discovered that is sure to please.  The BJ torture game is not intended to truly torture in the brutal sense but think of it more like an elongation of a wonderful feeling?  Lucy was playing with her beast of a man and realized that guys stop and start all the time simply to prolong things, and also (rightfully so) to avoid being selfish and going too soon.  Alas, we appreciate and praise the thoughtful man who thinks not of his own pleasure but the pleasure of both parties.  So, when its time for the woman to be in charge of the pace, why hurry through it?  Yes if you are not excited by the receiving party, we can relate to getting the job done quickly. But why not jump in that driver seat and go go go and then lull lull lull, taunt, tease, stop, start, and just enjoy the control and the fun.  Call it what you must, but we coined it BJ TORTURE GAME.  Lucy already has him signing up for more!